Smile

Life’s hard. This is something we all have to accept at one stage or another and we have a choice whether to let it get us down or to rise above it and be the commander of our own emotion. We’re not children any more, there’s no-one there telling us everything will be okay and reassuring us that we’re doing well. It’s your job to do that now. So smile. You may not feel like it, you may not feel remotely happy but you can let that emotion own you or you can show it who’s boss. Truthfully, it’s not even just about you. The person next to you on the train, the cashier serving you your sandwich, your co-workers, your family, you friends are much more likely to feel happy if everyone around them is smiling. And the same goes for you; it’s a beautiful loop.

So smile. It can’t hurt.

Change

Change is one of the few certainties we have in this life. It doesn’t matter how good or bad a situation is, we can at least be sure that it will be different in some way in the future. Change happens in all aspects of life, it happens in yourself, in your family, in relationships, in your community, and on a global scale.

The changes that mean something to us as people tend to be also set in motion by people – for example, if you get a new job, it is because you applied for the position with relevant experience and impressed the interviewer. Pretty obvious, right? But, despite how obvious this seems, we all seem to forget this simple truth when it comes to things that we want to see changed. It’s easy to look at a situation and say that it’s wrong; that something needs to be done about it. It’s easy to talk about it to friends in a shocked manner, easy to say “isn’t it horrific, someone needs to do something about this” but this doesn’t mean anything at all without finding a way to be a part of that change.

The thing is, we are so used to seeing things on the news, thinking about how awful they are for a minute or two and then getting on with our day like nothing happened. If we want to see the world changed then we have to do something about it ourselves, because somebody has to or things will stay the same.

Don’t just point out the need for a change. You should be part of that change.

What’s wrong with sport?

Sport is an aspect of society that is nigh-on universally celebrated in one form or another. You find it littered across the back pages of newspapers, on the most expensive television channels and flaunted on the clothing of hundreds of thousands of enthusiasts around the world. We love it and there’s something about it that holds our interest. But is it something that we should be holding in such high esteem or have we got too caught up in something that should never have held the influence in our culture that it does now?

As a British man, being asked the question, “which football team do you support?” is much like the question, “what kind of music do you like?”sports – the person asking the question expects you to have an opinion. In my experience, other men find this topic very comfortable and are happy to launch into into a well thought out discussion or argument about some team or manager or player or transfer or goal etcetera. I have seen this subject dominate the conversations of men for hours but, apart from being extraordinarily unimportant, is there actually anything wrong with their enthusiasm?

On the surface it seems ridiculous that there could be anything wrong with sitting down and enjoying a good game of football but when you look deeper it doesn’t seem as straightforward as one might expect. Firstly, it shouldn’t matter so much to the general public who wins or loses a game. I find it interesting how people can justify identifying themselves with a club without playing for them or working for them. Sure, it used to be the case that football clubs would be made up of local people and so the community spirit was understandable but these days players are often not just from different counties but from different continents. It seems silly to me to be traditional about this; there is nothing Mancunian about Manchester United F.C. any more, that’s just where they happen to play. So when I see people screaming at television screens or crying at stadiums it leaves me wondering if there mightn’t be a healthier outlet for these people’s emotions, perhaps they should give up the pretence and save their feelings for something real.

I just think we have a responsibility as human beings to commit ourselves to the things that are really important in life. If you’re one of the people that finds yourself shouting at the television screen, furious with your team’s performance, then perhaps if you looked a bit deeper you’d find what you were really angry about. Life is very short and can be lived a lot better if we are honest with ourselves, look past our pride and humble ourselves. If something makes you happy or sad, let it be because it’s something that matters, something that means something.

So I think sport should be enjoyed, yes. But as an appreciation of excellence or a way to keep fit. Not as some tribal battle. As adults we should be in control of our own emotions and look up to people worth looking up to.

We can do better.