Living in the Moment

The idea of ‘living in the moment’ isn’t an uncommon philosophy in today’s culture. It’s very closely linked to the ‘YOLO’ (You Only Live Once) movement that flooded the Twitter-feeds of millions of users over the past couple of years. People around the world became hooked on the idea that you could justify outrageous decisions with the notion that when life draws to a close you won’t have the opportunity to make that decision again. I don’t dispute that this seems perfectly accurate, you do only get one life on this Earth and when it’s over, there’s nothing you can do to change what’s happened, but it would be short-sighted, I think, to simply follow all your impulses and instincts for this reason.

The simple fact is, you may only live once but that life doesn’t end after each decision you make. There are consequences to your actions and consistently following your raw desires just isn’t healthy. For example, there are countless websites and companies out there who are willing to offer you loans of up to £1000 as an instant bank transfer. There’s a lot that you could do with this money, things you’ve wanted for years that this money could get you and you could just live in the moment and get yourself that new TV/Hi-fi system/massaging chair or whatever you dream of. But the pressure of the debt will catch up with you and you could lose it all in a second.

So whilst YOLO makes for a great slogan, like many catchy acronyms it really holds very little meaning with regard to making life decisions; the truth of the matter is far more complicated – you have a future to be concerned about, not just the next few hours and your decisions should reflect that or you can lose things, and people, that you love.

Live your life, not your hour.

Role Models and Idols

Role models are an important part of a child’s development, there’s no doubt about it, kids are influenced by the behaviour of the people in authority over them and the people they like. Traditionally, the main role model for a child is their father, for a boy, and mother, for a girl. Parents should behave how they want their children to behave in future, as they are constantly being scrutinised by their offspring, who are desperately trying to form a view of how the land lies – of what’s acceptable and what’s not. You don’t see a father swearing in front of their four-year-old son because that father doesn’t want to endorse this sort of behaviour. Equally, you’ll find that parents try to be polite in front of their children regardless of their mood. Even in adulthood, people are highly influenced by their peers – we have a natural instinct to avoid offending the people closest to us in order to maintain relationships.

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